Saturday, October 1, 2011

PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN!


"I started off having a mommy that would polish my nails and a father that taught me how to ride a bike. But when I was walking home from school at ten years old two men grabbed me. My life was never the same after that day. I remember fighting for my life, but I was not strong enough to get away. I remember waking up in a hotel room, with all my clothes off while men were looking at me. I was so afraid as tears rolled down my eyes. My head was pounding and everything seemed like it was spiraling around. I was hoping it was a bad dream, but it was one of the worse days of my life. One of the men decided to buy me from the man that kidnapped me. I remembered him grabbing me by my waist and saying, “I will have to break her in before I make a penny off of her.” I soon found out what he meant that next morning. I was beat so bad, because I refused to do what he wanted me to do at first. I remember one of the girls telling me if I wanted to live I better obey. I wanted to live and be back in my parents’ arms so I obeyed.  I’m still to shame to say what I had to do for at least six years until I escaped.

You would think it was all greasy, fat, and old men that took advantage of me from the age 10 to 17. It was only a few of those type, but it was mostly nice looking husbands, doctors, lawyers, preachers, famous entertainers, and much more. I would tell them my age, hoping they would help me, but they all would ignore me. I found myself hating my long curly hair, skin color, beautiful face, and shapely body. I was always selected from a large group of girls to do the things your could never imagine.

Then one day a man that was very high picked me up and we got into a bad car accident on our way to one of those expensive hotels I was usually in at least 3 to 5 times a day.  I ended up in the hospital for about 2 weeks. I told my story to one of the nurses that I came to trust there. She reminded me of a friend that was beat to death for refusing to do what our snatcher asked her to do. She was very kind and called me baby liked my mother use to call me. I was always crying when she would come in my hospital room. The first few times she asked me what was wrong I was too afraid to tell her because of the many threats my snatcher told me. He told me over and over again he would kill my entire family. He even had pictures of my family to prove to me he was not playing.

I finally told her and my life changed for the best plus 6 of my friends became free and a few of the men ended up in jail. I gain at least 250 pounds and I’m happy to say I’m no longer beautiful. I don’t have to worry about being picked up by any man.  I don’t have to worry about a man looking at my body anymore. They no longer call for me. I will never have to worry about being picked from a group of women. No man looks at me. My relationship with my parents now is not good, because when I first went home I blamed them for not finding me. I was very rebellious because they were trying to treat me like the 10-year-old shy girl they remembered. I was a completely different person. I was very unhealthy and still in the process of healing. I’m afraid to be alone. I will not allow a man to touch me. I’m too afraid to go to football, basketball, golf games, concerts, plays, or hotels because that’s where the men would always take me. Some would try to give me flowers but I would throw them away the second they left the room. I never fell in love and will never allow myself too.

Parents please never let your children walk home alone! I don’t care what type of area you live in. I lived in a very small and beautiful neighborhood. The men that grabbed me were driving a Benz, which was the types of cars many of my neighbors had parked in their yards. It was not a black or white van with no windows. It can happen to anyone so don’t assume it won’t happen to you. I find myself crying a lot, there are days I wished my snatcher had killed me, I only have a 5th grade education, and I don’t trust anyone.  Some days are good and some days are terrible. Today is one of my good days because I hope my story save another child’s life. I want to thank my friend Michelle for helping me write my story. I would not have been able to do it without her."

Tammy

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7 comments:

  1. I received a note from True Conversations! this morning to read this note. I'm so happy I did because it encouraged me to make sure I pay more attention to my daughters when they are outside in general, I have 2 daughters around the same age and I have no idea how I would handle someone doing this to my daughters. I pray for the Lord to heal you and you received the help (therapy) to assist you with replacing those thoughts you developed from the trauma you been to exposed to for so many years. THANK you so much for sharing your story. Please know you made a lady in GA more aware of this issue. God Bless YOU!

    Nancia

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  2. I am a male with 1 daughter and I would kill someone if they took advantage of my daughter. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I apology for the men that lives in lust and do not recognize all women are our sisters and girls are our daughters. We are in a time we only seek to satisfy our pleasures. TV, movies, and music is centered around getting whatever you want no matter the cost. Many are taking this to the extreme, because of our selfishness we are even willing to hurt others like yourself. I hope you get better and I'm so sorry this happened to you. I will also have my daughter that is 13 to read this story too, because this will help her understand why I don't let her do a lot of things alone. Your story encouraged me to keep my eyes on her more with her mother and aunts help!

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  3. Thank you for sharing your story. I can tell by reading your story it was very painful. I don't have any children but I would not want this to happen to any child. I'm so sorry this happened to you and I hope the best for you. Please remember how we start is not how life has to end. You have been given the chance to live a different life than, I hope you heal and be able to live a better life.

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  4. Thank you for showing me how important it is to walk with a parent, not alone, and obey my parents. From reading your story you help me realize all neighborhoods are not safe. I'm 11 years old and my mother asked me to read this story and I'm happy I read it. Thank you for telling your story to protect children like me. I'm praying for you.

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  5. Can I have one of those cupcakes! I'm just playing. Thank you for sharing your story, I'm happy you escaped. What are you doing with your life now?

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  6. I was not expecting to read this on today, but happy I did because I have a similar. I'm not ready to tell it yet like u. It's 2 painful or hurt so bad. I try to forget about it, but learn from reading your story why I don't go different places and how I hate to be alone with a man. I'm attractive to men, but too scare. I'm going to church now so that's been helping me, but have not told them my story because I don't want them to treat me different. I just want a normal life like everyone else. I got my GED on last month so I'm proud of myself. Now I'm looking or a job, but it's hard because of the hours and with my kids and stuff. Anyway, Thank you Tammy we are going to make it with God's help and on our side because it is a true nightmare that keeps playing over and over in your mind.

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